I find that I need to revise the goals I made at the beginning of the school year… I recently looked at them, and they made me sad.
Here’s the original list:
- Wear a fun colored lipstick at least once a month.
- Wear a new outfit at least once a week.
- Care less about what people think about your outfits.
- Limit social media time: 3:00-4:00, and then 8:00-9:00. Between 4:00 and 8:00, your cell phone must be put away somewhere where you can’t see it. If your homework isn’t done by 8:00, continue until it’s done.
- Read at least one non-school related book per month.
- Have a designated chill time and space where you can not think about school.
- If you’re freaking out, don’t try and work through it. Give yourself the time to clear your mind, and then get back to work.
- School is important, but so are your friends. Set up a monthly gathering, maybe brunch one Sunday morning.
- Go into each day with a positive attitude; List one thing that you’re looking foreword to in each class.
- Walk into school everyday with a big smile.
- If someone is giving you shit, you aren’t required to stick around. Remove all negativity from your life.
- Same goes for drama.
- Bake more.
- Visit Hurlburt twice a month, just to get out of the Choir room and to recalibrate yourself.
Some of these aren’t possible anymore, so instead of wallowing in my misery like I’ve been doing since the beginning of September, I’m going to try and revise these to more manageable goals.
So… Here they are:
- Wear something you feel good in every day.
- Try to care less about what people think about your outfits and about you, but if you don’t that’s okay too. It’s a process.
- Limit social media. Unless you’re having a very important conversation with someone, put the phone away while you’re working. Looking at your phone is okay every so often, but think about moderation.
- Try to check in with yourself at least once every night. What are you dwelling on? What’s weighing you down? Try to identify your feelings, but don’t dwell. Acknowledge, then let them slip by.
- If, by 9:30, your homework isn’t done, stop. Email your teachers, or make sure you go and talk to them before school, but rest and relaxation is really important too… If not more important than your school work.
- If you’re freaking out, don’t just sit there, getting more frustrated. Give yourself the time to clear your mind, and then get back to work.
- Your friends are important too. Don’t neglect them. A monthly gathering may be impossible, but try to send them a little appreciatory text once a week, letting them know that you care.
- Stay positive. When you feel like staying in bed because you face an especially tough day, list one thing that you can look foreword to in each class, no matter how small. Then, walk into school with a smile on your face. Show the universe that you’re stronger than what a tough day has in store.
- On especially bad days, list 10 good things that happened.
- Make Hurlburt proud. He may not be by your side this time, but he’s out there, and you can make him proud. But remember that he already is proud of you. He loved you, and he will always be proud of you, as long as you’re doing the very best you can. He only ever asked you to be your best, and if you’re doing that, you’re making him proud. Remember his love and his pride in your heart, if you can’t find it anywhere else.